At the very beginning of our lives, we are not really responsible for what takes place in our lives. We don’t choose our parents or other family members, the city, state, providence, or hospital that we are born in. Only as we begin to develop and grow do we reach a point of accountability, a place where we begin to assume more control over various aspects of our lives. I call the process of becoming accountable; ”Stepping into the captain’s seat of life.”
Many of us have heard it said the man/woman who sits in the captain’s seat must understand the responsibility of making decisions. The captain determines the decision that is to be made and that decision determines the outcome that lies ahead. We are all captains of our own life’s ship; therefore we must all accept that we have progressed to where we are in life based on the choices we’ve made. The sooner we learn to accept this truth, the greater chance we have to succeed.
We may not control where we start, but we do control where we end.
Thinking back on my life it’s ridiculous to think how much I used to blame other for where I was headed. My outcomes, both good and bad, were always directly related to the choices I made along the way. Instead of accepting that, I expected others to do it for me, and always intervene and somehow make my outcomes successful. Needless to say, thinking like this never led me to any sustainable success.
It is true that outside circumstance do affect the decisions that we have to make. But, the heartbeat and the final choice of the decision always rest with us. Think about where you are in life right now. Is it where you want to be? If not, define were you want to go? Do research on what it will take to get where you really want to be. When you develop a game plan, decide to take responsibility to make the necessary decisions with the corresponding actions to get where you really want to be.
Decisions to move forward are not always easy but the decision is always necessary.
Recently, I was told by a friend about a book that helped him see the choices he was making in a different light. Over the next few articles I will be writing about some keys of wisdom that I pulled from the book The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews. If you have not read this book I highly recommend that you make some time to get it done.
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Who's to Blame?
Published: Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Updated: Monday, March 15, 2010 00:03
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Your article is great source of wisdom in the rise and fall of man's career destiny. It would be good to point out some of the factors of ones failures. We can think positive of ourselves, do great research of our goals and we can be blind sighted of the full trues of self atitudes and vainess. Our dress to impress is important as well.
Prayer is a great starter before all things.